Hello guys, it's been a minute. I apologize. The life I chose as a doctor involves many exams. So I have been reading a lot of late. My life is: work, workout (if I can), then I hit the books.
Wish me luck in my exams and say a prayer for me.
So I come out of my hiatus to address the issue of the wailing wailers (as I like to address them). I have gotten a couple of rather "public messages" talking about the significant other cheating. I was going to ignore but I realized I'm not the only who is probably going through this and said to share some "tips" to deal with it. This isn't only for women or married couples, I believe it cuts across all board.
As annoying and upsetting as it seems, you need to ask yourself a few questions.
1. Is it true? So whatever allegation is made, is it really true. I'm obviously not "Pastor Mrs" Suleman who says you will know when your significant other is cheating. But you need to ask yourself how true is this.
2. How does the person know? So how does this "friend" know this piece of information. Are they friends with the significant other or with the supposed other person?
3. What does this person stand to gain? So this person sends a message or picture or whatever warning you about your other. What's in it for this person? Think about this before you act. Destroy a seemingly peaceful relationship or cause ripples? This is usually the aim especially if it's a public exposure. So don't give them that pleasure even if you react, keep it on the down low.
Now how do you deal with this information?
1. You can choose to ignore. Hey what you don't know won't kill you. So ignore the message and move on with your life. Nothing hurts a person more than realizing their tantrums isn't attracting any attention.
2. You can confront the other with it. This requires some level of maturity. The typical response is to fight and get dirty. But breathe, if you can handle it, then go ahead.
3. You can go FBI and find out if it's true. But hey sometimes is it really worth it?
So what if it's true??
Well my last post is about how to deal with a cheating partner so go through and see if it will help http://thismarriagething.blogspot.com.ng/2017/03/how-to-deal-with-cheating-spouse.html?m=1
Now to the wailing wailers or you as a friend who actually wants to tell on that friend's significant other. Ask yourself these questions before you start this story
1. Is it true?
2. Is it necessary?
3. Is it kind?
Most times you have a no to one or more these questions. So don't bother.
And lastly to my "dear friend"
Thank you for your particular interest in my husband/marriage. In as much as I am grateful for your investigative works, I would recommend that you maybe extend the services to other parties and we are dealing with our marriage like every couple should (without outsiders involvement). I pray we all achieve greatness.
Now back to the books. Not read much today.
Ciao
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ReplyDeleteIgnore them Doc. People will always talk.
ReplyDeleteI want to tag a few friends here that have slept with him too but I'll do that another tym. Don't worry,we all know u. U knw us too. ����
ReplyDeleteBut really is this necessary? Really necessary? Seems like you arent busy enough? No kids stressing you? No husband cheating on you for you to mind your own buisness? Or no job? Cant learn skill if you are not gainfully employed? Honey, take several seats and let her be.
DeleteOya Anonymous, give yourself a milo clap!!, girl with the most friends that are whores!! Aunty i am proud of you!!... please all of you gather yourselves, go to your nearest bank and try to cash you sexual prowess, lets see how much you will get, or cash you "husband reporting skills"...... in this day and age that your mates are making millions, darling you are concerned about another woman's home? .... Chai your joblessness is great o, sorry ehn. Or husband reporting is your job???
DeleteThis is the problem with small minds, you are missing the point. The point here is get busy so that you can mind your buisness; the buisness that actually pays you and leave another person's marriage alone. That's all we are saying honey.
DeleteAunty anonymous.. I have been following your comments for a while and i am actually wondering what the deal is ? Really???? .... as for the side chics , we know a couple of them and can name them ....the colleagues, the twitter gang, the randoms.. etc.. where do you fall in ? btw! i am one of them as well( Ask him about me) ...... Have you ever thought that maybe their marriage is an open marriage ......So what exactly is your story? .... it looks like you are holding a grudge.... it might be worthwhile to spill the beans...
DeleteIts funny how you are justifying sleeping with a married man... trust me honey,.. no matter how liberated we are, it still makes us classless
An open marriage? Lady,go and sit down. Who is a child? An open marriage is what I'm in with my husband. But as for Fikayo,we know she's too emotional for that. Ah! You've slept with him 2? How disgusting! So what exactly are you defending here? That you slept with your 'friend's' husband ? I've dropped my two cents. I know the girl he's currently sleeping with. And they are not in an open marriage.
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DeleteJust the response i wanted..... I was thinking you would be smart enough to let your arsenals down .. but i guess emotional intelligence it not one of your strong points..... there is no defense here babe..... I purposely led you on and the aim was to make you realize that ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS ....., LET THEM BE .. you have stated your point and if you have anymore to say, then state it and move on ....
DeletePS i would not be responding anymore on this matter so continue with your trolls... its a clear justification of how the govt needs fix the unemployment figures from surging any higher...
Any one who comes for their family has ME to contend with first ... Be warned !!!!
Lmao, no wonder you are trying to break her home, you husband is full fledged cheating on your dumb ass and you convince yourself you are in an open marriage ������ laughter has killed me on your matter..... sister i knew this was a psychological case. Poor you, your are trying to distract yourself from your situation that why you are taking panadol for Fikky's headache....... awwww Fikky i think you should consider this poor lady as one of your patients.
ReplyDeleteJust the response i wanted..... I was thinking you would be smart enough to let your arsenals down .. but i guess emotional intelligence it not one of your strong points..... there is no defense here babe..... I purposely led you on and the aim was to make you realize that ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS ....., LET THEM BE .. you have stated your point and if you have anymore to say, then state it and move on ....
DeletePS i would not be responding anymore on this matter so continue with your trolls... its a clear justification of how the govt needs fix the unemployment figures from surging any higher...
Any one who comes for their family has ME to contend with first ... Be warned !!!!
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ReplyDeleteWay to go Fikky. Please epp me ask dem "how is it their consign"? In as much as you have a grip on things, outsiders should keep away. It's your marriage not theirs. Truth is many wailing wailers do it out of spite,waiting to see your dramatic side. Kolework. Just do your thing and all would be well.
ReplyDeletePS: My spouse knows that if I ever catch him taking me through such emotional turmoil, I would unrepentantly poison him and attend his funeral without shedding tears. And look good doing it.
Love and kisses.
This place is intense
ReplyDeleteMy sister!!! Men won't stop bringing embarrassments to their wives. ��
DeleteGirls that go after married men shar!!! Don't u want to get your own? I just don't get it
DeleteDoctor please take this post down or delete the comments. It's becoming too much of a show.
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