THIS MARRIAGE THING

This is a guest writer's post.  We have lost a lot of people recently. Just a few weeks ago, my colleague asked for permission to leave work and by the end of the day, he was dead, 2 weeks ago, a young man died coming from a wedding, a friend lost her husband this week. This made me very aware of my mortality (not like I wasn't aware of it before) but it makes it very real. It also got me thinking ..... is it all worth it?  What is life really all about? Is it all about the needs? The hate or the constant pressure to be liked and accepted in this life? Or is it about the need to be validated or seen as the baddest that liveth? When do we start focusing on ourselves, focusing on making a difference, touching lives and making people remember us for our good deeds no matter how small.  We really don't we know how much time we have left... we are all on borrowed time ...  Let's mend all the fences, life is too short to sweat the small stuff, all of it would

So I had lunch with the best girls and Mr I, a few weeks back. After a few jabs, we got talking about life in general. Mr I's opinion was that this institution of marriage is a scam. The best girl rolled her eyes at her significant other. In his words "which of the great ones in the bible had a proper marriage?" Not David nor Abraham! He went further to say, "people are sold a lie about marriage". He also believes the reason most marriages fail is because we are sold great expectations! We marry with the belief our spouses are meant to be our best friends, be there for us, give to us in the same measure as we give to them. He said he hears this some many times "I gave up this for this marriage"; " I have done so much for this person"; "Is this the thanks I get". He believes that marriage shouldn't be restrictive and you should be able to achieve your goals even when married.  This got me thinking, serious soul searching