THIS MARRIAGE THING

In pursuit of happiness: Defining happiness!  So I'm a self-acclaimed life coach! Sue me if you don't think so!  I have a few friends I "intervene" in their lives, even if they don't need or solicit my advice.  So I have this friend who I call a spend thrift. Our conversations usually go this way.  Oga: Aunty! I just saw this TV and I need to buy it.  Me: need or want.  Oga: whatever.  Me: what happened to your old tv. You rarely watch it na. It's even a smart TV so you can't claim it's old model. Oga: The old one will go into my room.  Me: what's the price  Oga: lol! You will scream if I tell you. Oya o!! Don't shout o!  Then he goes on to tell me a ridiculous price. Then I scream and start preaching about vanity and learning the differences between needs and wants.  This dance, we do with a new wristwatch, perfume, money spent on whatever.  Recently we had a sit down and I had to ask him. I'm l...

DEALING WITH DELAYS IN MARRIAGE So sorry for the long hiatus!! Had exams and I'm not an expert at multitasking when it comes to exams. I let it take over my life! Sigh! So back to my blogging and regular life!!! Whoop!! Life feels so easy when you don't have an exam close by!  Today I talk about delays in marriage! Delays can occur as regards having kids, getting a job or in anything but I focus on having kids. One of the major issues people have in marriages is dealing with delays as regards having children especially in our African society.  Most people have a timeline which usually goes like this: when I get married, I will wait 1-2 years, then have kids. This is for most of us who marry early. The expectation to this when you marry late (definition of this varies, my late might not be your late). The older ones (the 'rents) start batting their eyelids after 6 months and they see no symptoms of pregnancy even when you tell them you want to wait. I...