WHEN THE ‘ABNORMAL’ BECOMES NORMAL, KARMA GOES ON
SABBATICAL
So I have been meaning to write this post but I kept
shelving it because “it seemed a bit judgmental”. However, a few recent social
media events made me share this.
A few days back, the best girls were hanging together and
one of them causally mentioned how Karma seems to be on leave. She asked if we
noticed that “the bad girls” that we were warned not to be like growing up seem
to be the norm of the day. It seems that “being a decent girl” is a bit
outdated and doesn’t earn you the golden prize after all. She said she was
talking to a colleague who hinted that the body count of girls between the ages
of 23-25 were as much as 50-70. I laughed at the exaggeration, she also felt
the same. He, however broke it down for her. The average young girl now,
borrowing a phrase from my colleague has an early consensual sexual initiation,
usually at about 15-16, if not earlier (I shudder at the thought of this).
These young-lings go through relationships within 6 months.
By the time, they enter uni, they tend move onto the “3 guy dating”, the
standard boyfriend, the married man and the friends with benefits. They also have
the regular or occasional one night stands or casual hook-ups. This is now the norm, so it’s not
being a hoe. The “decent” girl is then seen as being stiff, frigid or might
even have a problem. Now this isn’t my own analogy nor that of the best girl. (it’s
the gospel of the street).
This got me worried; this wasn’t the case while I was in
university (I don old small, I finished medical school over a decade ago). The
average body count then was around 3-5, if you started late, however, if you
started early, max was 10. After that, you might be considered a hoe. I am
talking of the same age range (23-25). Yes, I have been called naïve,
sheltered. Don’t forget, I went to a medical school so really, frolicking
around wasn’t top of our list. Also, maybe there might have been an increase in
moral decadence.
Anyways, I deviate as usual, then we used to be very scared
of being termed “loose”, “a cheerful giver”. It was a thing of shame to find
out your “exes” knew each other. Guys had a problem dating girls their friends
or even acquaintances had a history with. Most of the “loose girls” usually
ended up single, baby mamas or second wives to some older men. We heard tales of how the aristo girls eventually retired and settled, only to find out their "sponsor" was related to their to be spouses. This was Karma
being a bitch for all their wayward ways. That was what was drummed into our
ears growing up. We all had that Aunt Shade, Aunt Bisi whose steps we shouldn’t
follow.
Now, we have girls with higher body counts than these our
aunts getting married to the best boys, having kids and happy in life. The
so-called decent girls are still single and searching and keep wondering if
being decent is favorably and even start to question their decency and
lifestyles. You have always been told that you should focus on your career and
make your own money and be a woman that a man can build a future with…. You
focus on all that when that when the HNI corp com girls (High Networking Individuals Corporate and Commercial) aka HBC (High Body Count) are getting the best cars,
furnished apartments and all expenses
paid holidays in Business class and after it all, they still score the best
guys… while you (MARY Magdalene), are still waiting like one of the ten virgins
for the prize that has been snatched ages ago…. (Who good girl epp o!). Words from the best girl's colleague.
A post by Joro Olumofin recently broke things down. He
writes “it’s so sad that “Runs Girls” or “Retired Runs girls” get the good guys
and eligible bachelors while most decent ladies wait and wait for the average
guy. He says he has gathered that most men fall for these runs girls or girls
with the runs mind set. He defines a
runs girl as a girl who uses her looks and body to get exactly what she wants
from men mostly older men. He calls them classy educated prostitutes. The
reason why men go for these girls is that they have a PhD in knowing how to
please a man, what a man wants. Her mind is like an encyclopaedia filled with
ways to please a man. A runs girl spend so much in taking care of her body
because it pays the bills. A decent girl on the other hand is busy equipping herself
mentally, occupationally, paying little attention to social media followers. A
decent girl doesn’t see the need to please a man, she is looking for a man to
please her emotionally and romantically, a companion and meet her half way. A
decent girl seems very difficult for most men, she has rules, terms and
conditions. She doesn’t have time to feed his ego. She knows she is a Queen and
needs to be treated as such. Runs girls have allowed men to run wild and free,
without any rules. Men can do as they want so far as she is getting her money,
designer bags and Dubai tickets.
So as the best girl said, when the abnormal becomes normal,
Karma goes on leave.
After all said and done, to each his own, we all must make our decisions and live as we please. We should be ready to face whatever music we get.
What’s your take on this? Drop a comment.
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XOXOXOXO
FM
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