WAILING WAILERS

Hello guys, it's been a minute. I apologize. The life I chose as a doctor involves many exams. So I have been reading a lot of late. My life is: work, workout (if I can), then I hit the books.

Wish me luck in my exams and say a prayer for me. 

So I come out of my hiatus to address the issue of the wailing wailers (as I like to address them). I have gotten a couple of rather "public messages" talking about the significant other cheating. I was going to ignore but I realized I'm not the only who is probably going through this and said to share some "tips" to deal with it. This isn't only for women or married couples, I believe it cuts across all board. 

As annoying and upsetting as it seems, you need to ask yourself a few questions. 

1. Is it true? So whatever allegation is made, is it really true. I'm obviously not "Pastor Mrs" Suleman who says you will know when your significant other is cheating. But you need to ask yourself how true is this. 

2. How does the person know? So how does this "friend" know this piece of information. Are they friends with the significant other or with the supposed other person? 

3. What does this person stand to gain? So this person sends a message or picture or whatever warning you about your other. What's in it for this person? Think about this before you act. Destroy a seemingly peaceful relationship or cause ripples? This is usually the aim especially if it's a public exposure. So don't give them that pleasure even if you react, keep it on the down low.

Now how do you deal with this information?

1. You can choose to ignore. Hey what you don't know won't kill you. So ignore the message and move on with your life. Nothing hurts a person more than realizing their tantrums isn't attracting any attention.

2. You can confront the other with it. This requires some level of maturity. The typical response is to fight and get dirty. But breathe, if you can handle it, then go ahead. 

3. You can go FBI and find out if it's true. But hey sometimes is it really worth it? 

So what if it's true?? 

Well my last post is about how to deal with a cheating partner so go through and see if it will help http://thismarriagething.blogspot.com.ng/2017/03/how-to-deal-with-cheating-spouse.html?m=1

Now to the wailing wailers or you as a friend who actually wants to tell on that friend's significant other. Ask yourself these questions before you start this story

1. Is it true?

2. Is it necessary? 

3. Is it kind? 

Most times you have a no to one or more these questions. So don't bother. 

And lastly to my "dear friend" 

Thank you for your particular interest in my husband/marriage. In as much as I am grateful for your investigative works, I would recommend that you maybe extend the services to other parties and we are dealing with our marriage like every couple should (without outsiders involvement). I pray we all achieve greatness. 

Now back to the books. Not read much today. 

Ciao