THE CASE OF CRAZY MARY.

THE CASE OF CRAZY MARY!! ADVICE PEOPLE

Good day people, 

Today I'm here to ask for advice on behalf of a dear friend. 

This is the story of my friend who has permitted me to share his story as he is very confused to say the least.

My friend; let's call him Nick. Let me give you a quick back ground on Nick. He is a young up and coming guy. Doing relatively well, good job, mama's boy sort of. He lives alone. 

Nick meets this young girl let's call her Mary. Mary is a "good" girl. Just finished university. So she is young. 

Nick likes Mary, the chase is on. Mary says she only wants a serious relationship. She isn't into the Lagos hook up thing. Nick decides to date Mary and be as committed as he can be. Lagos boys. 

Things are going well with the usual hitches in any relationship. He however notices Mary is a tad bit intense. She  calls about 6-8 times at once. She rants and raves when he finally picks up the phone. She goes through his phone. She knows if he is being "friendly" with any girl. Gets the "friend's" details and starts asking questions. He puts this FBI behavior down to the new generation's social media thing. Everyone has their life on social media. He also admits she is a bit insecure and tries to calm her from time to time. Left to her, she will spend every waking day with him. Which is sometimes suffocating but hey, he loves her. 

To the major story. So Nick and Mary go out on this very day, they have an argument on their way back and stop talking to each other. Mary enters the house and goes into Nick's room while he lies on the sofa. His phone rings and he picks it. Mary comes out of the room, asking who he is speaking to. She goes on and on about how he has this friend and that friend. How he is unfaithful. He hangs up and walks away from her as she was screaming. He can't deal with a screaming woman. She goes back to the room and he calls his friend back. She runs back out and starts to attack him. Screaming her head off. Starts biting him, hitting him and scratching him. He runs into the room and locks the door, she keeps kicking the door until he opens it. He comes out and next thing she heads to the kitchen to grab a knife. In all of this, he was telling her to calm down. When he sees the knife, Nick feeling it's a joke and tells her to drop it, which she eventually did after waving it in the air and threatening to stab him. She calms down after some minutes and starts crying. All this was in the wee hours of the morning. He calms her down and she leaves during the day. 

Nick calls me up a few days later and says; this is what baby girl did. I tell him, baby girl Mary is a lunatic and you need to leave her. 

This is an excerpt of our conversation.

N: na, she was just angry. She isn't really crazy. 

FM: dude, whatever the case, she has no right to hit you or even threaten you with a knife in your house. 

N: I know she could not have hurt me. She was just upset. 

FM: really 🙄😒

N: yeah, and by the way, she is petite. So I'm sure I can handle her.

FM: what if you got angry and hit her back or you had struggled with her with the knife and she got stabbed? Or you got stabbed? Who would believe she attacked first? 

FM: so what if the roles were reversed and she was the guy and you were the girl?

N: babe. that's different! That's an abusive relationship.

FM: how is this any different? You are in an abusive relationship. 

N: hmmm! I don't know but this is different. 

FM: so says everyone in an abusive relationship. Anyways I'll cry at your funeral when she kills you and give a speech.

N: haba, you can't say that. Anyways it's ended.

FM: if I hear. 

Anyways by this time Nick had called Mary up. Saying it's over. He can't deal with the crazy. She says she wants to pick up her stuff from his to which he told her to come over. 

Mary comes over. He tells her, it's over and she starts this whole drama. Jumps on him, holds him tight. Wailing in the streets. She is sorry. She was overwhelmed. Baby boy stands there looking bewildered. He tells her he was joking and has forgiven her just to end the drama. 

Nicks calls me up saying he is at a cross road. He is scared she will hurt herself if he leaves but he is very worried she will hurt him if he stays. 

So guys what's your take on this? And I kid you not, this isn't tales by moonlight. This ish is real. 

XOXOXO

FM