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This thing called marriage
I have been procrastinating about this for while. My way of life.
First of all, introduction. I'm a shrink and married mother of two. Been married for over nine years now with my fair share of stories and drama about marriage.
This blog is meant to serve as a platform for women to be free to open up and speak about things they face in marriage. This isn't a religious group, nor a help group per se but just an open space to vent and be anonymous if you please.
The African culture teaches us to be silent as women. Whatever you are dealing with in marriage. Hush, don't let others know. They are probably going through worse and are "packaging" themselves. If your husband cheats, you don't mention it to people. Cover it up and pray. If he hits you, pray harder.
Sometimes to remain sane, you need to let your voice be heard. The time for shaming the woman in a bad relationship or marriage is over.
No marriage is perfect. That's the truth. I tell people may there be more good days than bad ones. But if you are having more bad days which isn't self inflicted (comparing your marriage to others or being a tyrant) this is an outlet for you.
Welcome to this thing called marriage

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