CONNED BY THE SPOUSE
Hello from the other side!!! What do you do when you marry someone and find out they are not who they portray themselves to be?
Today we talk about Esther who wants to know what to do as she has discovered she was conned by her husband.
Esther was born into a Christian family. She is a God fearing and devout Christian. She is also a member of the work force in her church. Being a worker, she tends to meet a lot of people in church and she is part of the ushering team.
One day, Esther meets Mr A who seems like a nice guy and had only recently started attending her church. He would attend services some weeks and then some weeks, he would go mia (missing in action). One Sunday, Esther jokingly harasses him about not attending church regularly. Mr A says he is an oil worker who works on the rig so his job involves rotation. Mr A asks for her number and they keep in touch.
Mr A starts calling regularly. He then asked Esther out on a date which turned out to be good. The dates were more frequent and Mr A tells Esther he wants to be in a committed relationship with her.
Esther noticed Mr A is very reserved. He would keep to himself. Doesn't really have friends. On the weeks he is home, he would attend church services regularly but would not associate with people in church. Just the casual hello and bye. Mr A did not have any major vice. Doesn't smoke. Drinks socially. Esther being a sister, prayed about the relationship and things felt right.
6 months after dating, he pops the big question. Will you marry me?? Esther is ecstatic. Here is a God fearing, decent guy, well to do. She said yes.
A few months later, they get married. He stops attending church, stopped praying with her. He would snicker when she is praying and would walk out of the room as he says she is disturbing his peace. Esther being a worker was perplexed as to why he would suddenly stop going to church. Initially Mr A gave various reasons. Work is hectic, he is tired. After much persuasion and involvement of various pastors. Mr A speaks his mind and drops the bombshell.
He doesn't believe in the concept of a superior being, that God is a fairytale story told to nonintellectual people to get them remain in their stupidity and mediocre life. He was just doing the church thing to get him a good girl that would submit to him.
Esther is at a loss right now. She knows she has been scammed into marriage. She knows the bible says do not associate with those who don't believe in God. She also knows divorce is frowned upon. Esther is confused. She has been praying for a while now so that he see the light. She wants her a man who has the value of God in his life and can instil same in their kids.
If Mr A can pretend about that, what other secrets is he keeping?
What are your views or advice to dear Esther.
Very interesting read; Dr. F my take on this is clear and easy.
ReplyDeletePeople get married for different reasons, it's dependent on what she believes. If she takes religion, Christianity and her God seriously then she's very free to first get separated and keep praying for him if that would correct her thinking.
Deceit is very painful and would leave her in scars, does he truly work in a rig or all that was a show too for him to hook a lady up?! Like I say marriage is not a do or die affair and if the same society that put you under pressure would be the same to expose you.
Yes we need to follow the Bible it says ". 2 Cor 6:1414 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
We don't need to fool ourselves, we need to start living in reality.....that would save us pain and also save us as a nation.